When was the last time you asked for help? It’s a too little used tactic that we are reminding you to put back in your tool box.
We find that most speakers, authors and coaches get a little insular and feel they are the only ones that can do the job as well it needs to be done. Or that they are not quite ready to reach out for help. You might be embarrassed by your lack of knowledge. You might be afraid to be ‘found out’. It’s a false economy. What happens is that you end up stuck in a task that you don’t enjoy, or worse, you avoid that task and project stall.
We all like to look good!
We don’t ask for help because we want to look like we are on top of things. We don’t want to look silly or demanding or unnecessarily burdening. Or we forget to ask, because we think we have to do it by ourselves. That’s when you end up even more stressed because you end up doing something that’s not quite in your skillset. It takes you longer. It frustrates you. It’s unnecessary!
Here’s the thing. Asking for help is all it takes. You won’t be a failure in the eyes of those you ask. You’ll be giving them a chance to share their expertise, their love for you, their time and they will most likely be glad you did. And you will too. Just do it. Give someone else the chance to shine.
Stop thinking you know it all or have to do it all.
Do yourself a favour right now. Think about your projects. What could use a little perspective? Which ones could use a little input? Where you asking for help? Where are you not?
Be a beginner, or at least put yourself in ‘beginners mind’ and just reach out on anything that’s got you stuck or is not moving. Anything that you feel you’re just not quite on top of. Or even something that you know is moving, but might be richer for the contribution of a peer.
Whatever the project is, reach out to someone today — you’ll likely know who — to help you. Be humble and just ask. It will save you time, energy and heartache. And you’ll get so much more done with just four little words: “I need your help”.
Go on. That’s our nudge for today. Don’t do it by yourself. There’s no need!